That said, my friend Arthur to me, who has come out of depression and was unhappy because he was not himself, but adapted itself to others, So it was codependent. A therapist asked him:"What would you be without your problems?"Arthur knew no answer and thought at that moment later, he would be nothing without its problems, would disappear, it would be his death, he was so familiar with it, problems had become its identity. Then he saw the ridiculousness of e.e.a. and came to understand.
We cling to the known and trusted, even if that afflicts us. A good example of a child who was taken away by the child with her mother hit her and abused, Child vehemently protested and reached out to the mother. Many of us are like that child and seek the familiar misery again, the tragedy. I think it's one of the reasons for the success of GTST, that's all drama and you think it's not that bad to you if you see that.
My friend Arhur has already reached insight on his 25th that he may be who he is and does not need to cling to problems. A friar of the abbey the Slangenburg said it very nicely on the clinging, he said:"Look Henny people do this' and he clenched his fists daarma he said," but you can not catch, You should do this' and then he took his hands a bowl, a lesson from this man let go and surrender to Your will geshiede, without being fatalistic.
Maybe you know of a survey among the Dutch population to happiness. I believe that 75% said they were happy and I say that they lie, it's the same as if you ask how are you, Most say than good, and lying, and if you then ask how is it real with you, you hear the true story, in the study is not requested and the results are not valid.
I walked with Leon through the city and then he told me:"Look at the people Henny, they have beautiful polished shoes, beautiful clothes and bags full of groceries and you must now look at those faces', there indeed knocked nothing, all unhappy and tormented faces I saw, the misery shone on it.
It takes courage to sensitize your shadow sides so you will master and no power over your exercise, as long as they remain unaware they control you without you know it, you can not have mastery over things you do not know and you are not aware of.
Rumi zei:'' Who in itself no defects discovered is his own enemy "and many others with him said similar things see on my site under the item codependency the topic of your own enemy '
Bron: Boek: "Enriching insights’ – Henny Bos (verschijnt juni 2016 Book published by Bent)
