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How do we hold onto the old!

I once spoke with Friar Co Abbey Slangenburg in Doetinchem. He clenched his fists and said,: "Look Henny, the people doing this: they cling to the familiar '. Then he said,: "But if you can not catch, You should do this' and he makes cupped his hands, it was a lesson for me.

After my crisis had caused a huge transformation I reappeared at my work and said a colleague: "So Henny, again the old?!’. I then said,: "No, and I will also never be, I am now the new '. He shrugged and knew nothing of it he wanted everything as it left off…

De Bijbel zegt: "Make me a picture!’, and we do not make it different from each other fixed images, that we do not wish to alter or adjust. Nietzsche pointed to it when he said: "Nothing is taken you so much blame than to have to change his image of you are '.

One study asked people to negative, damaging information about a known politician to read. Their attitude towards this politician was measured before and after they had read the information., After reading, they were negative about this politician that they were neutral or even positive for the time. When she was told that the information was a mistake, it was not about the politician but was fabricated. The attitude of the people towards the politician was measured again after this new information and it turned out that the people maintained their opinion and were still negative about the politician.

We may be influenced by ideas that are wrong, are misleading and imagined and our beliefs remain the same even if it is demonstrated that they are incorrect and wrong(!!).

Many people cling to the familiar, because it gives them a sense of security, even if that old torments them. Vernon Howard zei: "There is a fine new world, but the old life does not even show the interest to investigate the even!’.

We are far from the old, Trusted leave is evident from a statement by Lao Tse 500 BC, he said: Plan your entire day full and there is no chance of life ', it is still very topical nothing has changed everything remained the same only now we have a new toy cars, airplanes and computers. The French say: 'The story repeats itself', or history repeats itself and Freud called the repetition compulsion.

Edward de Bono Lateral Thinking I learned, that's from the old, set patterns and steps free and creative thinking, He also said that people tend to accommodate new information into old brain patterns and so it goes beyond them to new. Through its innovative approach clears the Bono of the Olympic Games also make a commercial success and were invented many new things.

The fear of change is very big it is often said: Any change is still no improvement, and be sure to remember that any improvement or a change!.

Many people still do the same thing and expect different than, better results, that's very foolish behavior that will only lead to great disappointments.

A woman with whom I marched for a while asked me how her future would look like. I said I do not normally do to grsproken predictions, but made an exception in her case because it would be her future was so obvious how namely: "More of the same!’. She took namely absolutely no new information and insights…

The saying: "The apple does not fall far from the tree 'beats, precisely because we imitate the behavior of our parents and continue to repeat for the rest of our lives, Americans call this reenactment. The boys marry a girl in their mother seems though he hated his mother that familiar, and the girl marries a boy who looks like her father.

There was a child who was abused and mistreated by her mother, The child took the girl there and the girl crying sticking hands out to her mother that she wanted to stay with the old familiar even though it was a hell.

Shop Hauer zei: 'The sages have always said the same century after century and century after century the people have always the same, namely done the opposite, "and so it is. The point being on self-knowledge, being creative, renew, etc and one does the opposite.

I once heard the saying that old people with their backs to the future and with their faces to the past.

Peter John, I heard that you can only find truth and see if you are free and are not tied to the old. Nietzsche zei: ‘Hoeveel waarheid kan een mens verdragen, how much truth he ventures?!"We prefer to live in the old illusion than the ever renewing truth and reality, this uncertainty we can we not think of at least.

Have you ever experienced a time when not passed?!. Let the past go and process it and do not let it run your life, Past, the old has the slipstream and has no driving force.

Often it takes a crisis to awaken people and to repent and change, the Chinese character for crisis is the same as the sign of change and opportunity. I also had a hard head and did much of the same as almost everyone around me so it was not me, it was normal. When I did not know that he who is completely normal is not quite normal. Maslow called normal psychopathology of the average man. Imagine no longer satisfied with your 6-or you 7 For your quality of life make it a 9 of 10 and dare to change and improve.

I had a telephone conversation with a man who told me he liked it so terrible that formerly was demolished a conversation at his home because mom with the food arrived and had to be eaten, he praised his father as he was with this man put the call in conversation and finished and told his wife that the food could wait, and now comes the: Then he told me that he had to break off our conversation because his wife came with the food!!, he was back to the old familiar from earlier home where he had such a hehel(-)

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself – Rumi

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Veel mensen durven niet gelukkig te zijn..

Arthur

That said, my friend Arthur to me, who has come out of depression and was unhappy because he was not himself, but adapted itself to others, So it was codependent. A therapist asked him:"What would you be without your problems?"Arthur knew no answer and thought at that moment later, he would be nothing without its problems, would disappear, it would be his death, he was so familiar with it, problems had become its identity. Then he saw the ridiculousness of e.e.a. and came to understand.

We cling to the known and trusted, even if that afflicts us. A good example of a child who was taken away by the child with her mother hit her and abused, Child vehemently protested and reached out to the mother. Many of us are like that child and seek the familiar misery again, the tragedy. I think it's one of the reasons for the success of GTST, that's all drama and you think it's not that bad to you if you see that.

My friend Arthur has now realized at the age of 25 that he can be there for who he is and does not have to cling to problems. A friar of the abbey the Slangenburg said it very nicely on the clinging, he said:"Look Henny the people are doing this" and then he clenched his fists then he said "but then you can't catch, You should do this' and then he took his hands a bowl(see picture), a wise lesson from this man in letting go and surrender in Your will be done, without being fatalistic.

so you can catch

Maybe you know of a survey among the Dutch population to happiness. I believe that 75% said they were happy and I say that they lie, it's the same as if you ask how are you, Most say than good, and lying, and if you then ask how is it real with you, you hear the true story, in the study is not requested and the results are not valid.

I walked with Leon through the city and then he told me:

” Look at the people Henny, they have beautiful polished shoes, beautiful clothes and bags full of groceries and now look at those faces!
there indeed knocked nothing, all unhappy and tormented faces I saw, the misery shone on it.

It takes courage to sensitize your shadow sides so you will master and no power over your exercise, as long as they remain unaware they control you without you know it, you can not have mastery over things you do not know and you are not aware of.

Rumi zei:'' Who in itself no defects discovered is his own enemy "and many others with him said similar things see on my site under the item codependency the topic of your own enemy '