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Discover and embrace your inner child

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Preface:
Listening to your inner child
Our thinking often causes us to erase the words of, among other things, our inner child with that thinking like an inner whiteboard eraser and then we say that it means nothing.
It's the same idea as when you turn off your radio and say there are no broadcasts. We not only have to turn on the radio and be on receiving but also tune in to the right station. That takes practice. A training inner child can help and also the contents of this book, explaining how to connect with your inner child.
Pallas Hendriks
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THINK

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THINK is the acronym of is it:

True-Helpful-Interesting-Necessary-Kind

Before you say anything, then think of this!

And listen more often, without pulling a questionable face and without objections and yes-buts

Everyone wants to be heard, but almost no one wants to listen!

For real listening, you are in the here and now without thoughts.

The inner child and anger

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angry child

Many children from their parents should not be furious, which was rejected, then they were no longer loves us. she even said; "You're naughty" rather than "You're naughty", So they played on the man and that we attract to us very much because we are still fully dependent on our parents

We're angry because we do not focus, erkenning, waardering, love and respect given that we had such a need. We're going to sublimate anger and exhibit passive-aggressive behavior by lying transverse, watching, make sarcastic remarks, humor have at the expense of the other, leedvermaak, To play devil's advocate, offend, denying attention, things to 'forget', the other 'gagging'(the silent treatment), you obnoxious act, you annoy quickly, deliver much criticism, often unnecessarily being late, etc.etc.

We project our repressed anger often on the other, we can then blame. Like we ensure that our other repressed anger plays out for us by making him or her hurt by our behavior and there to have fun and then the other to blame, self-reflection is alien to us, that's scary.

Thich Nhat Hanh schreef het boek 'je Omarm woede', that's good advice. Recognize that your anger is there and see it as a messenger that you bring a valuable message has, namely that you did not get your parents and is now trying to get out of vain. You can book your anger get you where you need also can give to yourself and be loving to yourself, Be a loving mother and father for yourself, who love you unconditionally for who you are and(Nietzsche zei: "Become who you are '). See also my article Become who you are.

Anger is often seen as a negative emotion, and negative emotions are rejected. Osho says that if you do not want to recognize the negative emotions you recognize any emotion. You will be a thinker, a robot…A negative emotion is simply a messenger that you are going to tell you what to change.

Behind anger can sit an unmet need or exceeded your limits by another and so you come to better understand your needs and boundaries

Mencius said he would pay more attention in the next life to its needs rather than desires, a sensible advice

If you never dare to be furious, chances are that you let walk all over you, 're a doormat and too much up and displaces, you will be sad rather than angry and if you really anger inside let you become depressed. It's not supposed to hurt others with your anger, but you may have to send a clear signal. Osho said that grief anger is turned upside, He said that if you make a mad person sad anger is gone and conversely it is reciprocal inhibition

A woman who dared to be said, not angry: "I'd rather not," and did not understand that it is too weak, so that the other person is nothing attracts and rolled over her and dominates. Since the woman may learn that they must bring their own dominance developed in order to live well. Your environment is in fact the mirror of yourself. And dominance was mirrored in this case had repressed women and should bring development

Who controls the bus?

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John Powell wrote about this topic. He told the story of a boy who was belittled and insulted by his father. Therefore, the boy decided to 5 age that he is no longer the law would let prescribe another and would yield to none.

The boy was bus driver. When he 45 year, he drove his bus and saw an oncoming come across a narrow bridge. He would not surrender, would not admit that it would not go and diversion and had a head-on collision in which he was killed. John Powell raised the question: 'Who actually controlled by bus?’. It was not exactly the 45 year-old adult but still the 5 old who would not surrender.

For me it was the 15 year, which was the rebel and protest against everything and everywhere was, I was a member of the band 'Underground team' and we were against everything, the establishment was klootten. When I much later realized I whistled the 15 hairy back and let him control my life and no longer acidic and decided not to be against everything but for things and people.

If we are like the 5 year we are codependent and we want to love, erkenning, esteem and get respect from outside because we were not used to.

Een man zei: "I still like the 5 year only with the difference that I am now with a beer in my hand stand 'Jeru Kaball wrote in his "Clarity Process' even though a 4 old who leads us often and that we are needy and want to catch and take and receive rather than to distribute wealth and give. We must cherish the child in ourselves and love but we must not let the boss to play and not let our bus driving that it can not.

Americans have about the reenactment we now repeat again the childhood trauma in adulthood and play and there's a lot in, if we repeat our life lessons they will not teach in intensified form until we recognize and woprden aware of the fact that we were not aware and observant.