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Two hands

Two hands….

An old woman comes to the doctor and says: I have one hand full of complaints.

Let me name them?

Let's hear it, said the doctor.

The first finger is my lost parents.

The second is my physical complaints.

The third finger, that there is so little I can do anymore.

The fourth, that sometimes I feel so lonely.

The fifth finger, that so many acquaintances around me have passed away.

That is indeed quite a hand full, says the doctor.

But then the other hand? he asks curiously.

Those are my blessings, would you like to hear it too?? she asks.

Please, says the doctor.

The first finger, that I have enough to eat every day.

The second, that my house is nice and warm in the winter.

The third, that there are people around me who help me.

The fourth, that lately I have been spared from more disease and pain.

The fifth finger, that I have enough money to pay my bills.

The doctor looks at both hands. The woman looks at him and says: Here are two hands that have borne sorrow, tears dried and sometimes clenched into fists. Also two hands that know what life is.

And you know what I think is so beautiful now, what happens when I fold my hands in prayer? No,” says the doctor.

When I pray, something happens to my hands. Then my hand with blessings goes to my hand with sadness. Then I clasp my fingers and then the hard things come between the blessings. And the blessings stop that misery in my life. In prayer I bring my sorrow to God. Then I count the blessings.

Do you know, I'm grateful that I have two hands, they keep each other in balance. They keep me in balance and that makes my life less difficult.

The doctor nods in agreement, folds the fingers of one hand between the fingers of the other and remains lost in his own thoughts.

Bron: internet

Integrative- and eclectic coaching

Integrative – and eclectic coaching
This approach is very characteristic of me. Bringing the client to his True self, taking into account his feelings, Emotions, thinking, beliefs, behaviors, experiences, handicaps, faith, spiritualiteit, lerend vermogen, etc.
Eclectic means that I get gold from many psychological and spiritual directions, attuned to the uniqueness of the client. The client learns to achieve spiritual wealth, expansion of consciousness, awareness and Self-knowledge / insight / awareness. The Delphi Oracle said it already: 'Know thyself'
Happiness is a by-product of awareness and Self-knowledge. And cannot be found outside of yourself, het is de weg naar binnen!….

An experience about my eclectic attitude is very funny: I got Jehovah's witnesses at the door, they imagine that they know and have THE Truth. I said to them: "You are like a flower!’. They started to beam at this compliment. Then I said: "I am an eclecticist, you know what that is?’. No they didn't know that, they only know the Bible. I explained that as an eclectic I pick my flowers from Christianity, jodendom, Buddhism, hindoeïsme, taoïsme, jainism, theosophy, psychology and philosophy, etc
Ik zei: "I do that which gives me a very nice bouquet, that is still getting bigger and more beautiful and now you want me to exchange that beautiful bouquet for that one flower of yours?!’
They did not get back from that, that too was not in the Bible, they then dropped off.

Windy Dryden's integrative and eclectic therapy is worth gaining insight.
The following model comes from that book and was translated by Leontine van Mourik

Advisory skills: an integrative framework A model for integrative counseling skills

The initial phase

Objectives
Building a working relationship Clarifying and defining problems Making an assessment Negotiating a contract

Strategies
Exploration / Introduction
Prioritize and focus
Communicate core values

Basic skills
Present
Observing clients Listening Reflective skills Investigative skills Being concrete

The middle phase

Objectives
Review issues again
Maintaining the working relationship Working on the contract

Strategies
Challenge through (giving):
Confrontation Feedback Feedback Guidelines Self-Disclosure Directness

Skills
Luisteren, reflective and investigative skills

The final phase

Objectives
Decisions / decisions regarding. changes Make changes Transfer knowledge End the counseling relationship Strategies
Set goals Plan of action Evaluate activities and support change Closure of treatment
Skills
Listening and challenging