Paradoxale intentie

Here is an example of paradoxical intention:

Fear of insomnia results in a hyper-intention to sleep, arising from the anticipatory anxiety that one will not succeed. It is also known that hyper-intention desired repels and excludes, it should be replaced by the paradoxical intention to want to stay awake and then soon there will follow the sleep…

So it is with an excessive urge to be happy, it is a hyper-intention which therefore leads to the opposite namely accident. I know a therapist who said: "Demand of yourself that you are happy ', I pointed out the danger of such a requirement, zo’n hyperintentie, by email, He did not respond to it, by phone he seemed unattainable. I got more and his partner on the line who could never tell me when he would be there again. The partner promised me that he would ask if the man would call me back, I've never called. The therapist felt wetness, I put a bomb under his philosophy…

A form of therapy if you feel unhappy is to make it worse, steeds erger en en dramatic tragic, even then does the paradoxical intention and resolve your bad feelings on.

The artist of life does not strive for happiness, because he knows that it is an automatic result of awareness and self-knowledge and he puts it on a stress-free and peaceful way in.

If you tend to worry much also going to greatly exaggerate and make sure getting bigger and you will see at one point and falls away from you its absurdity

If we want to quell anger per se it will play an even greater role in our lives. Everything you strongly resisted stronger. Hyper Intent regarding your anger lets you laugh and then the paradoxical intention to work. It is wise to get the message that understand the anger has for you and overtake. It may be an unmet need, or a refusal, or a no to a question or request, or an insult, but it can also old pain from your unresolved past or violating your boundaries, find out what it is their doctrine. The artist of life suppresses his anger not only use it in a constructive way ao. to respect its limits.

Bron: Book 'Happiness & Levenskunst’ – Henny Bos (will end 2014)