I was afraid…

If you think in terms of 'I was afraid of that' you are pushing your happiness away, because fear usually attracts the feared. When I signed out of a friend's lecture he didn't say: 'What a pity, I had really counted on you and was glad you would come' but 'I was afraid of that already..' He expected it from me and I unknowingly responded and met his expectations.

The Shy Boy Who's Afraid of Rejection, will hint that if he asks a girl out. That girl will have the fear, feel doubt and uncertainty and reject him and then he says: "I was already afraid of that..."

Fear is the great counterpart of love, if you love then you are not afraid to be rejected and you will be accepted more often and get a yes to your question or request.

When I was still married my wife was very afraid that she would break precious crockery and so she broke a lot. Once we got old and ugly crockery from my parents and we didn't care if it broke and we threw it while washing the dishes and nothing broke….

If you're afraid you'll get sick, your resistance decreases and there is a greater chance of illness and that your fears become reality.

If you are afraid of something you become very insecure and you start to doubt. Ik zeg altijd: "When in doubt, don't overtake". Regilio Tuur said: "1% doubt is 100% failure'. If you doubt and are insecure, the other will feel it. He will realize that in order to believe in yourself you need his confirmation and therefore respect you less and see you as dependent and not as equal and you were already afraid of that.

The church says: “Fear the Lord thy God”. I say: “Love God as He Loves You”

Don't be afraid of the other person's opinion of you, what the other says about you, says more about him than about you.

I once got a job applicant who was in 5 more than a year 10 had jobs, I made a comment about that and he immediately said: "I was afraid of that already", that's why I keep getting rejected' and so he rejected himself and didn't see my question as a request for more information.

Gedachten hebben de neiging zich te materialiseren. So are fearful thoughts..