Paradoxale intentie

Here is an example of paradoxical intention:

Fear of insomnia results in a hyper-intention to sleep, arising from the anticipatory anxiety that one will not succeed. It is also known that hyper-intention desired repels and excludes, it should be replaced by the paradoxical intention to want to stay awake and then soon there will follow the sleep…

So it is with an excessive urge to be happy, it is a hyper-intention which therefore leads to the opposite namely accident. I know a therapist who said: "Demand of yourself that you are happy ', I pointed out the danger of such a requirement, zo’n hyperintentie, by email, He did not respond to it, by phone he seemed unattainable. I got more and his partner on the line who could never tell me when he would be there again. The partner promised me that he would ask if the man would call me back, I've never called. The therapist felt wetness, I put a bomb under his philosophy…

A form of therapy if you feel unhappy is to make it worse, steeds erger en en dramatic tragic, even then does the paradoxical intention and resolve your bad feelings on.

The artist of life does not strive for happiness, because he knows that it is an automatic result of awareness and self-knowledge and he puts it on a stress-free and peaceful way in.

If you tend to worry much also going to greatly exaggerate and make sure getting bigger and you will see at one point and falls away from you its absurdity

If we want to quell anger per se it will play an even greater role in our lives. Everything you strongly resisted stronger. Hyper Intent regarding your anger lets you laugh and then the paradoxical intention to work. It is wise to get the message that understand the anger has for you and overtake. It may be an unmet need, or a refusal, or a no to a question or request, or an insult, but it can also old pain from your unresolved past or violating your boundaries, find out what it is their doctrine. The artist of life suppresses his anger not only use it in a constructive way ao. to respect its limits.

Bron: Book 'Happiness & Levenskunst’ – Henny Bos (will end 2014)

Eén

M’n vriendin Elly zei: ‘Als ieder mens één ander mens liefheeft en voor één ander mens zorgt wordt iedereen liefgehad en wordt er voor de hele wereld gezorgd.’ Ik vind dat een mooie gedachte en één ander dat moet toch gemakkelijk te doen zijn!

There is an old story about the time when the Buddha was enlightened.
The gods told him that he had to bring his message to the people but the Buddha refused and said that the people would not understand him and would reject and deny and would even attempt to ridicule him. The gods called to mind but the Buddha continued to refuse. Then said one God:"If there's one man who is just on the threshold, and by your words and presence to enlightenment could come you'd do it for the one man?!’, which the Buddha resounding Yes said, and was going to bring his message to the people. That story has always really appealed to me. Jesus also gave priority to the individual above the masses. It's always that one, the individual that makes the difference

In Advaita Vedanta, they are also talking about one. There is only one Being that manifests itself in different ways. Advaita means non-duality, therefore duality, but one is the unity of all.

Philip Renard writes:"You reach Advaita only complete when you reach the egoless state 'Then you are one with everything. Het ego ziet zich alleen als afge- scheiden en dan is het ik versus de ander en dus dualiteit.

David Frawley says in his book 'Vedanta meditation ":"The Vedantaweg is dissolve the mind in the Self which is our true nature, beyond the mind and its conditioning "Jesus did even when he said:"I and the Father are one" and that we can do the same thing he did and even more, he put himself out on a (ego) pedestal, which Christians have put him

Frawley writes: ‘De Vedanta beschouwt onwetendheid t.a.v. our True Self as the cause of all our problems of life 'However, the ego wants to know nothing of his ignorance and thinks everything themselves know better, even better than the wise and the ego does the opposite of what have said always point.

Furthermore Frawley writes: ‘Om waarheid te vinden moeten we zonder motief zijn. That is, we must be one with the universal motive: the world to a higher consciousness and:"Real relationship is, we ourselves in all beings and all beings see in ourselves'

That is, the I(ego)phase to the We(Self )going phase.

I once read the text contained in an I Illness and Wellness is in We.

Osho said that this is a universe and not a multiverse, what we make often. Frawley says that universal religion is universal consciousness and love. Universe means one song..

You and others are really one, het is Wij in plaats van Ik ver- sus Jij, we are gods and that is even in the Bible:"Do you not know that thou art gods!’

Everything you do to others you do in being yourself and what you give to others you actually give yourself. Je omgeving is de spiegel van jezelf!. Everything you have given can call you truly yours.

Osho gods:"Va durability is the absence of the other, and are only( are all one, one with it all ..) is the presence of yourSelf.

I think it was Erich Fromm wrote that the greatest problem of our time is that man can not only with themselves. I think because they are not one, niet uit één stuk, No friends with themselves.

Joseph Murphy schrijft in z’n boek ‘The power of your subconscious mind’:"When you give emotionally mature no negative response to criticism, resentment, resentment and hatred of others. If you would do that would mean that you descend to their state of low mental vibration and energy, and you would become one with the negative atmosphere of the other '

English latch one the same as winning. Als je één bent heb je inder- daad gewonnen, the victory over oneself is the greatest victory. Then work all sub-personality as a whole together, and you're in one piece, no more struggle between o.a. the head and the heart where Chris de Burg on singing.

Op het strand lagen honderden zeesterren en een man was bezig om ze weer in het water te gooien een voorbijganger zei: ‘Dat heeft toch geen zin het zijn er wel honderden dat maakt toch gen verschil’. De man zei met een zeester in zijn hand voor deze ene maakt het alle verschil’.

I will be happy and satisfied if I can reach one person with this letter and inspire,motiveren,enthuse and encourage. If I have one heart, one soul was able to touch, you can sign up and then I will greet you warmly.

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De Dramadriehoek

De dramadriehoek / Henny Bos

Henny Bos, came in 2007 During a study counseling specialization in contact with codependency and he recognized a lot in there. In 2012 he founded the codependency network on, now there are already 80 membership. Henny also has a 1-1-2013 founded codependency academy

One of the aspects of codependency participation in the drama triangle Karpman. There is nothing written in Dutch and that is unbelievable because we all sometimes play roles in the drama triangle, we all sometimes prosecutor, redder of slachtoffer, but often unconsciously, and then work very negatively by. This book leads to awareness and make you free from the triangle.

Henny has on the Internet about 350 pages of text found on the drama triangle and this study. He has also read many English books on the subject and experts consulted, together 2 years of study, an investment of 10,000 euros den you get now for just 25 euro. Henny has a few things added to his own findings and experiences. This book is a result of Henny's research. It is written with care and love, and he hopes that as well received.

2013 / 9789462033597 / Paperback / 276 pagina’s

Recensies:

van Bob van ParerenDatum toegevoegd: zondag, 09 June 2013
Weer een bijzonder boek van de schrijver en ervaringsdeskundige Henny Bos.
With a friend, I found his book Other Value of codependency,,nl,A fascinating book about how we,,nl,well almost all,,nl,together steken.Een book that helps you become aware of conduct which do not benefit from helping yourself komt.En you take steps herein for a finer life for yourself and you I also read his latest book Drama Triangle anderen.Nu,,nl,Again, in a lighthearted way of writing,,nl,with lots of examples and references sets put our victim or rescuer or prosecutor role,,nl,Especially what these roles hinder us who we really zijn.Ook read this book again by nice because so many light-hearted moments are so many examples and clarify roles,,nl,Henny was writing about it in the aforementioned book by him,,nl. Een fascinerend boek over hoe wij (nou ja bijna allemaal) in elkaar steken.Een boek dat helpt met het bewustworden van je gedrag wat niet ten goede van jezelf komt.En je helpt hierin stappen te zetten voor een fijner leven voor jezelf en jou met anderen.Nu heb ik ook zijn nieuwste boek Dramadriehoek gelezen. Wederom op een luchtige manier van schrijven, met heel veel voorbeelden en verwijzingen wordt onze slachtoffer of redder of aanklager rol uiteengezet. Vooral ook wat deze rollen ons hinderen in wie we werkelijk zijn.Ook dit boek leest weer lekker door omdat er zoveel luchtige momenten in zijn en zoveel voorbeelden de rollen verduidelijken. Henny schreef er al over in het hiervoor genoemde boek van hem: you get a collection of hundreds of books / pieces / websites so on a platter,,nl,Even such insteek.Het the Drama Triangle has again been very special Henny this,,nl,books indented on something very alive,,nl,but has never been appointed as the Dutch literature,,nl,Both highly readable and each subsequent fine,,nl,I wonder where Henny's a surprise for me in the future,,nl. Ook de Dramadriehoek heeft weer zo’n insteek.Het is heel bijzonder dat Henny met deze 2 boeken inspringt op iets wat erg leeft, maar nog nooit zo benoemd is in de Nederlandse literatuur. Allebei zeer lezenswaardig en prima elkaar opvolgend.

Ik ben benieuwd waar Henny mij in de toekomst mee gaat verrassen.

Waardering: 5 van 5 sterren![5 from 5 sterren!]

van John RoskamDatum toegevoegd: woensdag, 26 June 2013
Een zeer lezenswaardig boek over een boeiend onderwerp. Hennie biedt een breed en compleet overzicht op de Dramadriehoek op basis van het vele materiaal dat hij verzameld heeft. En passant legt hij relaties met andere modellen en technieken, zoals Kernkwaliteiten, Transactionele analyse, Voice dialogue. Hennie schuwt ook niet om zijn persoonlijke ervaringen te duiden op basis van de Dramadriehoek en dat geeft extra diepgang aan het boek. Hij valt soms wat veel in herhaling m.b.t. het gebruik van bepaalde quotes maar dat is verder niet storend. Het boek is met veel liefde en toewijding geschreven. Van harte aanbevolen!Waardering: 4 van 5 sterren! [4 from 5 sterren!]

Nietzsche

I am finding more than enough,,nl,I have since learned to find,,nl,Since I wind once tegenhad,,nl,I sail with the winds,,nl,This poem tells a lot about my life and appeals to me,,nl,

sindsdien heb ik geleerd te vinden.

Sinds ik de wind eens tegenhad

Zeil ik met alle winden

 

Nietzsche

 

Dit gedichtje vertelt veel over mijn leven en spreekt me zeer aan!