Kennis en wijsheid

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One scholar has extensive knowledge, but it may lack wisdom. Lao tse zei:"A method is taught and learned is not wise '. Knowledge can be a way to wisdom if we apply the knowledge in the right way in life and not think that we know already have with our knowledge, because with this in mind we have been a fool than a wise.

Knowledge is power is the expression. I learned the formula E = Q x A, De E = Effect, Knowledge of the K x A = Acceptance, if the acceptance 0,0 is the effect is also 0,0 even if it is the knowledge 100%, there limitation of knowledge.

Een uitspraak is: "Knowledge speaks and wisdom listens". Almost everyone wants to be heard, but almost no one wants to listen. Listening is too threatening for your idealized self-image can be affected by listening and changed and you did not wi.

The wiser someone is, the more he realizes that his knowledge but it is very limited and he must re-examine things again and again. Goethe gods:"If we have no idea of ​​the whole, we realize is how fragmentary our knowledge".

A great scholar had a lot of knowledge is not wisdom to be happy and sought help in a way. The way suggested to start with the tea ceremony. He poured tea into the cup on the way to the defected, which the scholar said:"Stop my head is already full" "Exactly," said the wise "how do you want of me still learn if your cup is full".

Inayat Khan zei:"Love and wisdom go hand in hand, what wisdom is there is love and love where there is wisdom "Very nice I think and see true love as well as the highest achievement. God is liefde. Knowledge is not always with love. A psychiatrist who was groups at me because I was manic said proudly:"You can ask me anything, I'm a walking encyclopedia and showcased to have his knowledge no attention to me, I told him I already had an encyclopedia had more need of TLC, he understood nothing of it. I picked up a mask with a kleppertongetje and drove the evil spirits away from him, he immediately wrote a recording for. He felt threatened by me, I threatened his big ego, and he was unable to appreciate the fool was crazy(op z’n ego).

I found much wisdom to many authors who wrote about codependency, See my articles, folder, brochures, flyer and book, site and CDs about. A man refused to receive information from me, he said: "I know everything already codepentie ', he codependency not even for games, so a fool who thinks there is already enough to know and to know.

A woman did not have more information as that tousled hair, she said she wanted to invent everything yourself and experience. I told them me soon would tell you that they invented the wheel, she was not amused.

If information confuses you, you have no distinctive character and wisdom to use the knowledge for the good of your life and your happiness.

To collect knowledge is not required wisdom, only a big head. However, wisdom is required knowledge, you can not have mastery over that which you do not know and you are not aware. The lower, the higher required, the foundation can exist by itself as it enables or not much for. Senior does have lower required, the building requires the foundation. The upper includes everything there is then no duality it is and / and in place of or in / or.

Here are some quotes that I like about knowledge and wisdom:

On the way to wisdom is the first step silence; the second listening; Third, remember; the fourth exercise; the fifth teaching others. S.Ibn Gabirol

Suffering is the father and love of wisdom mother – L.Börne

Wisdom is nothing but the science of happiness. – Diderot

When wisdom hear fathom the intellect of what is eternal; conscious rational understanding of what is temporary. – Augustine

To know that you are ignorant is the beginning of all wisdom. – Viviane van Avalon

Knowledge is only the brilliance in the organization of ideas. It is not true wisdom. True wisdom ignores knowledge. – Confucius

Knowledge is proud that she has learned so much; wisdom is humble that it knows so little.

English: Knowledge is proud that he has learn’d so much; wisdom is humble that he knows no more – William Cowper

He can not conceal his wisdom is a fool. – Benjamin Franklin

Wisdom can be found only in truth. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Self-knowledge is the beginning of all wisdom and the end of most illusions. – Gerd Law

We can be much by knowing people's knowledge, but we can not tell by people's wisdom. – Michel de Montaigne

A barrel full scholarship is not a drop of wisdom worth. – Pythagoras

The strongest symptom of wisdom in a man is when he is receptive to his own follies. – Francois de la Rochefoucauld

Who cherishes old knowledge and continually amasses new, may be a teacher of others. – Confucius

Knowledge resides in minds that are filled with the thought of other people;Wisdom in minds that pay attention to their own;. – William Cowper

Science is organized knowledge. Wisdom is organized life. – Immanuel Kant

Real knowledge is to know that one knows nothing. – Socrates

The first step to wisdom is all put a question mark and the final step is that we can manage with everything – George Christoph Lichtenberg

To vergaen knowledge must be taught, but to gain wisdom must observe one – Marilyn Savant

He wants his needs often change continuously happy and wise – Confucius

Wisdom even submit to kennes restrictions – Nietzsche

In the search for wisdom can show you a way and to the imagination that you have the wisdom you show you a fool – Rabbi Ben Azai

This wise owl Elly has painted for me

Self-care

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Marc Buelens and Ann Vermeiren wrote a book titled "Self-care" On the back cover she wrote:"How many people do not care for others?.But worry they also sufficient for himself? Self-care begins with self-knowledge. This requires standing still. Praise yourself and give yourself unconditionally the right to exist '

Self-care is often confused with selfishness, What is selfishness. If you look after yourself only then can you also cares for other concerns and you react not your misery down on the other.

In de Bijbel staat:'Love the neighbor as yourself!’. So it starts with you!. If you -often unknowingly- may not be yourself you will accept and appreciate you nor the other and projecting your own shortcomings on the other.

Once, when I was sitting behind a table on a psychic fair in Groenlo a woman came up to me telling me that she was ready for anyone and everyone helped but found out that if they themselves once attention needed there was no one for her. I asked her what she did for herself, and she was startled them to discover that they did absolutely nothing for himself!

There is a test where you measure how dominant, aloof and socially you're. This woman did not have to do the test, I did so well that they are on dominant and socially very high score and aloof very low. Her assignment was to discover her animus and integrate. If you put it in a graph you can see that there is a hole

D = Dominant(linkerlijn), A = Aloof(middle line) and S = Social(right line).

In the pit, the people throw their misery and problems and they are of those problems now and you sit with it. That is not self-care. You then allow being treated badly. I gave a pep talk to this woman and she said it was exactly what she needed to come to more self-care.

Buelens and Vermeiren made a striking remark she wrote:"If we do not value ourselves apart from our performance, we will not appreciate our performance, 'That's exactly right for me. I did not value myself and was never satisfied with my achievements. I had a work-a-holic and thought thus gaining the appreciation that I craved.

Lao-tse zei:"I need no rating because I myself already appreciate '. He provided his own needs and that iz self-care.

Buelens also written and Vermeiren:"Those poor will himself take it out on others'

An ex-boyfriend also responded with negative criticism and disparaging remarks and pedantic behavior he did not care properly for themselves. His meal often consisted of a carrot and he could not read himself. He spoke ill of others and saw his own evil does not, he projected that the other.

I let Buelens and Vermeiren just like to the word, the book is very worthwhile. They say:"Those who speak ill of others? Who need to bolster themselves by putting others down? Usually, those who neglect themselves in an important area, who do not take seriously their self-care "and also" Building good self-esteem is the most important thing we can do for our self-care.

I now have a spiritual self-esteem and take good care of myself, know what are my needs and come meet them. I feel no more but also no less than another, I feel connectedness that we are all an expression of God.

I realize that most people are not even aware that they are an expression, a manifestation of God and are ignorant and can be cruel because they are not aware.

If you are conscious, you know that you are love and compassion and that's what you give and also communicate to yourself and that is self-care.

Buelens and write Vermeiren:"Who will take care of themselves fast enough hostile, boos, unenjoyable and not a source of joy for others "and I add: for themselves, You can therefore not approve of yourself and not only.

 

 

 

 

Communicatie naar het hart

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If you are willing to listen to and talk about what interests the other, steal his heart. You show him that you are really interested in his life and interests and that flatters him and does him good.

Maya Angelou zei: "People can forget what you did for them, ze kunnen vergeten wat je hebt gezegd, maar ze vergeten nooit hoe je hen hebt laten voelen’

Amerikanen zeggen dat de meeste mensen een onzichtbaar bordje op hun voorhoofd hebben waarop staat: ‘Make me feel important!’. Als je houding en non-verbale communicatie er een is van gelijkwaardigheid, verbondenheid, waardering en respect zal de ander dat voelen en zul je z’n hart bereiken in plaats van alleen z’n hoofd.

Ook eerlijk en open zijn over jezelf kan de ander helpen om ook open te worden en zich (eindelijk) te uiten wat hem goed zal doen, hij zal dan voelen dat het veilig is.

Kahlil Gibran zei: ‘Waarom hebben we medelijden met de blinden van oog en niet met de blinden van hart’ Veel mensen communicaren van hoofd naar hoofd en bereiken zo nooit het hart van de ander, ze letten alleen op wat er wordt gezegd, waar de communicatie voor meer dan 80% non-verbaal is en gevoeld wordt.

Als uit je communicatie blijkt dat je de ander volledig accepteert en waardeert zal dat gevoeld worden. Daarvoor moet je wel eerst jezelf accepteren en waarderen en dat is nog wel eens een probleem.

Als we communiceren vanuit angst zal ook dat gevoeld worden, als er angst is om afgewezen te worden roept dat afwijzing op, angst trekt het gevreesde aan. Beter is het om vanuit liefde te communiceren en bij te dragen aan de groei en ontwikkeling van de ander, zonder hem te willen veranderen. Door de ander te willen veranderen maak je hem vrijwel zeker tot een vijand, dat werkt vrijwel nooit goed. In de aanvaarding ligt de sleutel tot de transformatie is een uitspraak van me. Opvallend is dat als je jezelf en de ander volledige accepteert juist de grootste veranderingen tot stand komen, als jij verandert, verandert je hele wereld om je heen

De Dalai Lama zei: ‘Mijn religie is liefdevolle vriendelijheid en z’n wezen straat dat ook uit, van zo’n man kunnen we leren wat liefdevolle communicatie is.

Bij een werkelijk groot mens zullen we ons nooit klein en onbeduidend voelen maar juist groots. Emerson zei: ‘Wat we het meest nodig hebben in ons leven is iemand die ons laat doen wat we kunnen doen’ Goede communicatie zorg daarvoor en is stimulerend, enthousiasmerend, motiverend, inspirerend en bemoedigend en bereikt het hart van de ander.

Bron: Boek: ‘Communicatie’-Henny Bos(verschijnt medio 2012)

Love what you do

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Inayat Khan pointed out the importance of love in what you do and that you can tell if something has been done with love, he also said that love and wisdom go hand in hand. God is Love and we are created in His image, so also love. Als we onszelf kennen weten we dat niet alleen maar zijn we ons daar ook van bewust en realiseren we liefde in ons leven.

De uitspaak is: ‘Houden van wat je doet en doen waar je van houdt’ Als je niet kunt doen waar je van houdt, hou dan tenminste van wat je doet. Maar voor hoevelen gaat dat op?. Er is veel geklaag en onvrede.

Tijdens een socratisch gesprek van het Humanistisch Verbond was het thema: ‘Wat is ons antwoord op de onvrede in de samenleving?’. Ik hoorde veel onvrede van de deelnemers, die duidelijk niet met liefde aan het gesprek deelnamen, maar eerder om de tijd te doden en te socializen om maar niet alleen te zijn. I then said,: ‘Moeten we niet beginnen met de vraag hoe we eerst een einde maken aan onze eigen onvrede?’ Daar schrok men van, want dat was te dichtbij. Je met anderen, de samenleving bezighouden is veiliger.

Als je met liefde en toewijding doet wat je graag doet is het resultaat ook heel goed en kun je zelfs excelleren.

Er waren eens drie steenhouwers die werd gevraagd wat ze deden. The first said: ‘Ik hou steen want ik kan niks anders, het moet maar’, de tweede antwoordde: ‘Ik verdien zo de kost voor m’n gezin’ en de derde zei: ‘Ik bouw een schitterende cathedraal’ De laatste deed het met visie en liefde.

Toen ik vroeger op donderdagavond op m’n kamertje zat met m’n vrienden, maakte m’n vader altijd de leverworst. In de loop van de avond kwam hij ons dan met gepaste trots wat brengen en was altijd heel benieuwd wat we er weer van vonden. Zelfs uit Zutphen kwamen mensen naar de slagerij van m’n vader in Lochem om de leverworst te halen. M’n vader maakte kwaliteit en dat is een vorm van liefde voor je vak. Ik heb die liefde voor kwaliteit van hem.

Een straatveger deed dus heel eenvoudig werk, maar hield ervan om de straten schoon te houden en deed het met liefde en aandacht en genoot ervan als alles weer mooi schoon werd, hij wilde de beste straatveger worden en deed daar z’n best voor.

Op school haalden we de beste cijfers voor de vakken waar we van hielden. Something is known to the extent it is loved.

Bij liefde werkt het zo dat hoe meer je geeft en deelt, hoe meer het wordt. Een persoon die liefheeft zal je zijn aandacht en liefde niet onthouden omdat hij weet dat het meer wordt als hij geeft en deelt. De persoon die je wel zijn aandacht en liefde onthoudt heeft vaak niets te bieden en wil alleen nemen, effe vangen. Dat zijn de mensen die hebzuchtig zijn en nooit tevreden en nooit dankbaar zijn en parasiteren op de ander, ze zullen ook niet houden van wat ze doen.

Een vrouw van de Norwood groepen raadde mij aan het boek ‘Getting the love you want’ te gaan lezen, die vrouw was ook zo’n nemer die van mij ook een nemer wilde maken, I'd rather read a book called:’ Giving and sharing the love you have’.

Ik hou van wat ik doe en doe waar ik van houd en dat werpt dagelijks zijn rijke vruchten af, de resultaten worden met de dag beter en beter. Ik hoef niet beter te zijn dan een ander maar vind het wel fijn om beter te zijn dan de man die ik gisteren was, dat is groei en ontwikkeling in liefde.

once, disagree

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My friend Peter Jan said:"If people agree with me, I think it's deadly," I said at the time:'I do not agree with you!’. He laughed and liked it. I told him the joke about the man and woman who were in relationship counseling. The therapist asked the man why they were there and the man said: "I'm here because my wife never agrees with me". The therapist asked what the woman thought and she said: 'I tend to disagree!’

I told Peter Jan that I sometimes like it when someone agrees with me and harmonizes then there is peace. If you choose to always disagree, you also choose the conflict model, the obstruction and that is a sublimation of your repressed anger that you do not want to acknowledge and therefore play it out in a passive-aggressive way. On the other hand, someone who agrees with everything does not dare to express his own opinion and continuously adapts in the hope of being liked..

If someone has to agree with you, you have little confidence in your point of view. The mere fact that you need support indicates that you are not sure.

So it is again and / and instead of either / or, to be able to agree and disagree instead of always agreeing or disagreeing.

I had(with an emphasis on) a helper who always thwarted and never agreed with me, when I said something was beautiful I came up with arguments why it was ugly, always in contramine, thus also repressed anger. I once put her to the test by pretending I was in front of something I was actually against, when I said I was for it she was immediately against and I had exactly where I wanted her and so she unintentionally agreed with me.

An atheist came to the Buddha and said:"Do you agree that God does not exist?’. The Buddha disagreed. Then a believer came and said:"Surely you agree that God exists". The Buddha also disagreed. A third came to the Buddha and said nothing and just looked and agreed with the Buddha who did not lend itself to be a point of reference for anyone.

When I read the many books on codependency, I completely agreed with most, I recognized my own codependency and determined that I was recovering and on my way. Many people disagree that they are codependent and are in denial and then say: "I'm not in denial"…