Wees echt!

In the journal "From heart to heart in August 2012 is the article "Be happy!’ van Ton Peters. He says: 'Ask of yourself to be happy'. Again a positivo coach who wants the light only and choose the day and rejects the dark of night. He prefers to be happy above really are your peaks and valleys that are normally.

He talks about the inner self with a capital which of course is superior to the self with a small letter which again is so afkeurd. Ton calls to repeat the mantra "be happy" and gives some other tips to help you quickly realize your luck(-). He says it gekunseld and unreal can happen, but only in the beginning. Ton represents the very simple, so simple that you may wonder why everyone is not all happy.

I know a man who also bandied says he is so happy, I've already told him why he did not tell that to his face. I suspect him of reaction-formation or in exaggerated form to show the opposite of what has…

I think the value ton of unhappy feelings like anger, grief, depressie, angst, etc. not want to see, thus throwing the baby out with the bathwater. If you are depressed and you follow Ton's advice and do you say to yourself "Be happy," then you get no value out of your depression you with your Higher Self can bring, then you deny that there NOW and do you want something else..

Moreover Ton talks about requirements, I believe that the Higher Self does not demand but accept what is there and the biggest transformations arise. You can say: 'I am depressed, but despite that I love myself "and" My depression can further help me on my path to self-knowledge, self-understanding and self-consciousness' I say that because I have known a severe depression and am thankful that I did not pushed by gay or do happy doing or distractions, but I entered and did much.

Ton is a bit like the two men who called themselves 'No shade', they had no shade and saw nothing but positive so they said, they performed for a talent show and the criticism of the jury was not good, their "happiness and positivity was instantly she disappeared reacted negatively and frustrated and angry, a reporter asked yet where their positivity was now, that reporter was angry at the side printed with "No shade '. They took their loss Heef unsporting and saw it as a learning opportunity. I do not believe in people like Ton Peters who always want to be happy, and even demand. Jung gods of: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light figures but we are aware of our dark side '.

Ton wants to be happy now, and demands that, provide a tyrant giving advice rather than information. The Buddha said,: "Happiness comes when your work and words of benefit to yourself and to others'. The Ton words do not come very beneficial to himself as demanding and I do not do to others. Lao tse zei: "Beautiful words are often not true and true words are often not pretty '.

Happiness is in my opinion not directly accessible but a byproduct of consciousness and self-knowledge and that range often through many difficulties and setbacks over, er is geen quick fix. Johannes Tauler zei: "The pains of the crisis are the contractions of God's birth in you" and as I have experienced it. ‘No pain, no gain’.

The most beautiful, most amiable people are not the ones who have always been happy, but those difficulties, setbacks and misfortune have known and those things empathy, gratitude and love learned. ‘Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls’ zei Edwin Chapin. The most successful and truly happy people are those who have overcome most of the setbacks and failures and still do.

During a lecture I held for the Theosophical Society, where about 30 people were present, there was 1 woman who was brought up happy, she said. When I broached the subject of anger, showed that precisely this woman held the rage(!). She had become very demanding because she had always been her and never had been a counter, she had not learned to deal with rejections and setbacks, she always wanted her to be driving by and that did not work and then they got angry(in order to manipulate).

We do not learn from our successes but our difficulties and mistakes and therefore we often evade and deny that we make mistakes.