Mijn 15 stappen naar interdependentie en vrijheid

De 12 Steps of AA(Alcoholics anonymous) CODA(Codependents Anonymous) a road to recovery, I have some doubts in particular with regard to the fact that they say that you are powerless and helpless. It is true that the thinking that caused the problems that can not solve problems, there is the right to think of the Buddha nodig.De 12 steps are only one way and there are many roads that lead to Rome and perhaps awareness or the main road to the heart. Knowledge is in the head and wisdom and love are in the hearts and Inayat Khan said that wisdom and love go hand in hand, wisdom where there is love and vice versa. Elly zei: "Henny went hard at heart '

Here follow my 15 steps and in contrast to the 12 Steps of AA and CODA's no copyright here, with acknowledgment you can not make it by giving me screen and wants to share it with interested

Here first is an overview of the steps, and then I will give a brief explanation of each step:

step -1-: Surrender to the will of God

step -2-: Self-reflection, see mistakes

step -3-: see Shadow Sides

step -4-: release

step -5-: Forgive, also yourself

step -6-: Making good what you did to others

step -7-: Disidentificatie

step -8-: Acceptance

step -9-: Unconditional love

step-10-: Weten dat je niet weet

step-11-: Be your own therapist

step-12-: discussion groups

step-13-: "Seers' seek

step-14-: Selfknowledge, zelfinzicht en zelfbesef

step-15-: Get a good(gold) Viewfinder and -vinder and be grateful for everything and knows in the here and now enjoy.

Now the explanation of the steps to follow:

step -1-: Surrender to the will of God:

Surrender to the will of God, Man, Brahman, the Universe or whatever you want to call it is really the first step. For me it was God, know the God of Love. Ik zei: "Thy will be done" and stopped to shout at myself and was silent and in that silence I heard only my intuition, or the voice of God, who speaks softly and only heard by those who are awakened and awakening. Only then will there really love into you and drill you in yourself and you get more insights and wisdom kuh you begin the other steps do not necessarily need that they appear in the order. Remember, God does work with you but not for you.

step -2-: Self-reflection, see mistakes:

recognize my mistakes and fallacies and follies for me was an important step. Confucius zei:"Unfortunately, I have seen no one yet who recognizes his faults, and there are interior has censured '. Self-reflection is rare and very valuable. I just know to do and so did not get me for information and new insights other than my field. In my knowledge, I was also confirmed by my surroundings, leaving me completely 'sure' of my case was and did not realize that I was astray. a big disillusion was needed, a crisis to bring me to repentance. After the crisis, I did not dare to look honestly at myself and from my mistakes and follies. From Meoldy Beattie I learned HOW formula either Honesty – Openess – Willingness either Honesty – Openness and Willingness. Shakespeare said that the readiness is all.

step -3-: see Shadow Sides:

My liberate inner demons, I learned from Tsultrim Allione who wrote the book "Free your rebuke demons'. Jung zei: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light figures but be aware by us from our dark side '. We have to our idealized and false, abandon false self and see the reality that we have both good and bad and dark sides.

step -4-: release:

A brother of the Abbey Slangenburg alerted me thereon. He clenched his fists and said,: "Look Henny people do, they hold convulsively on things, even if it torments them, but if you can not catch, You should do this' and then he took his hands a bowl. I was a control freak and tried to control the behavior of others and manipulating that they would like me. I let it loose when I discovered that all you are trying to control you just check and you are the slave of the other..

step -5-: Forgive, also yourself:

Wayne Dyer taught me that if you do not forgive your parents and they are already deceased you should go to their graves and it should express any anger that's part of the atonement- and processing. I did that and it had a liberating effect on me. Do you forgive yourself first not to be consumed with resentment, rancor, hatred and anger. Forgive yourself is often the most difficult step, you can see your mistakes go as learning opportunities that you have been where you are now, with much more insight than when. As we express our feelings honestly we will continue to project them and take it out on others.

step -6-: Making good what you did to others:

You apologize without justifying your, e.e.a. work this out like the other, you often unknowingly hurt, that is.

step -7-: Disidentificatie:

I learned during a uitgebnreide training in psychosynthesis. They argued there that you thought, but are not your thoughts, you have feelings but they are not, you have a body, but are not your body, subpersonalities that you have in you but are not, etc. I dropped further by disidentifying by me anything until there remained nothing and that proved to be everything. Before I identified very strongly with my job, my function in the status it gave me, I had a work-a-holic.

step -8-: Acceptance:

Accepting the other person will usually succeed, lot harder to fully accept yourself, and I mean all your aspects including the negative. You realize that nothing human is foreign works often liberating. The acceptance is the key to transformation and self-liberation. It is quite paradoxical, but the more you accept yourself, the more changes you will undergo. And if you then change is the miracle that your whole world changes around you.

step -9-: Unconditional love:

I loved in order to get love, it was more of an investment, do business. A woman taking part in a Group Norwood I got the tip to read the book "Getting the love you because". Typically I found that, I'd rather read a book called: ‘Sharing and giving the love you have’. If you really know yourself then you know you are in essence love, and therefore can give only. Augustine said: "Love, and do what you will 'In Ho'oponopono is a mantra which reads: ‘I love you, Thank you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me’, a powerful mantra that works for me.

step-10-: Weten dat je niet weet:

Socrates zei: "Now I know that I know nothing" and if you come to an open attitude and will investigate and come to true wisdom. I just know to do and that was my trap, I thought I knew myself, very stupid of me and a big misconception, because then you will not be open to information and insights. The Bible says not for nothing: "Examine everything and keep the good '.

step-11-: Be your own therapist:

A friend taught me to be my own therapist, from 1992 I did so with great success, which provided much, I asked myself questions and then answer came from my subconscious and my intuition. Later I read that Melody Beattie was gewprden her own therapist and was not understood by her therapists.

step-12-: discussion groups:

I took a few years, participated in a discussion group Attitudinal healing and I have had a lot of ingot at, we shared about each other's lives without judging or giving each other advice, there was really listen and you learn to express yourself as to others. Dispositions was that we are each teacher and student roles that may change regardless of age, experience or training. I will understand myself fit and to know the extent I have communicated about myself to others is a maxim. Groups and friends can here is a great service bewijzen.De maxim: ‘Share-check-share’..

step-13-: "Seers' seek:

Many therapists are blind and deaf and do not really listen to you but just try as much information you get them you can classify. In groups like Coda and AA is seen not always, a man was a member of the AA group and was still drunk again and told that he was already drying times, Everyone in the group kicked it and applauded, only one present was a seer and told the man: ‘You’re in deep shit, but I love you anyway’. I was fortunate to take a holistic therapist and a numerologist as visionaries who could say me much about my being..

step-14-: Selfknowledge, zelfinzicht en zelfbesef:

Find out that you're not a human being having a spiritual experience but worked a spiritual being having a human experience liberating for me. The oracle of Delphi said: 'Know thyself', but we do not listen. Lao tse zei: 'As other intelligent kent is, who knows himself is enlightened '. The more a man knows himself the more he realizes that he does not know himself yet, and that's because the consciousness is infinite, whatever the Buddha said,. If you come to love yourself and feel, there is also wisdom and then you come to your essence and you will also feel.

step-15-: Get a good(gold) Viewfinder and -vinder and be grateful for everything and knows in the here and now enjoy.

There is research on the success factors of happiness in humans. From 100 successful and happy people no agreements were discovered in prosperity, opleiding, origin, etc., there was only one agreement, which was that they were good / prospectors. They looked at what was good about themselves and the world around them and how they strengthened it. Alles wat je aandacht geeft dat groeit. Then you count your blessings and you're thankful and you enjoy it.