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Wees echt!

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In the journal "From heart to heart in August 2012 is the article "Be happy!’ van Ton Peters. He says: 'Ask of yourself to be happy'. Again a positivo coach who wants the light only and choose the day and rejects the dark of night. He prefers to be happy above really are your peaks and valleys that are normally.

He talks about the inner self with a capital which of course is superior to the self with a small letter which again is so afkeurd. Ton calls to repeat the mantra "be happy" and gives some other tips to help you quickly realize your luck(-). He says it gekunseld and unreal can happen, but only in the beginning. Ton represents the very simple, so simple that you may wonder why everyone is not all happy.

I know a man who also bandied says he is so happy, I've already told him why he did not tell that to his face. I suspect him of reaction-formation or in exaggerated form to show the opposite of what has…

I think the value ton of unhappy feelings like anger, grief, depressie, angst, etc. not want to see, thus throwing the baby out with the bathwater. If you are depressed and you follow Ton's advice and do you say to yourself "Be happy," then you get no value out of your depression you with your Higher Self can bring, then you deny that there NOW and do you want something else..

Moreover Ton talks about requirements, I believe that the Higher Self does not demand but accept what is there and the biggest transformations arise. You can say: 'I am depressed, but despite that I love myself "and" My depression can further help me on my path to self-knowledge, self-understanding and self-consciousness' I say that because I have known a severe depression and am thankful that I did not pushed by gay or do happy doing or distractions, but I entered and did much.

Ton is a bit like the two men who called themselves 'No shade', they had no shade and saw nothing but positive so they said, they performed for a talent show and the criticism of the jury was not good, their "happiness and positivity was instantly she disappeared reacted negatively and frustrated and angry, a reporter asked yet where their positivity was now, that reporter was angry at the side printed with "No shade '. They took their loss Heef unsporting and saw it as a learning opportunity. I do not believe in people like Ton Peters who always want to be happy, and even demand. Jung gods of: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light figures but we are aware of our dark side '.

Ton wants to be happy now, and demands that, provide a tyrant giving advice rather than information. The Buddha said,: "Happiness comes when your work and words of benefit to yourself and to others'. The Ton words do not come very beneficial to himself as demanding and I do not do to others. Lao tse zei: "Beautiful words are often not true and true words are often not pretty '.

Happiness is in my opinion not directly accessible but a byproduct of consciousness and self-knowledge and that range often through many difficulties and setbacks over, er is geen quick fix. Johannes Tauler zei: "The pains of the crisis are the contractions of God's birth in you" and as I have experienced it. ‘No pain, no gain’.

The most beautiful, most amiable people are not the ones who have always been happy, but those difficulties, setbacks and misfortune have known and those things empathy, gratitude and love learned. ‘Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls’ zei Edwin Chapin. The most successful and truly happy people are those who have overcome most of the setbacks and failures and still do.

During a lecture I held for the Theosophical Society, where about 30 people were present, there was 1 woman who was brought up happy, she said. When I broached the subject of anger, showed that precisely this woman held the rage(!). She had become very demanding because she had always been her and never had been a counter, she had not learned to deal with rejections and setbacks, she always wanted her to be driving by and that did not work and then they got angry(in order to manipulate).

We do not learn from our successes but our difficulties and mistakes and therefore we often evade and deny that we make mistakes.

Geluk

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Almost everyone wants happiness in his life, To be happy. But the more we pursue the further the happiness itself away from us. We will have to achieve a good balance between sense and sensibility, self-knowledge and self-understanding in order to find happiness. Good luck ass to the prepared mind.

There once was a young kitten turned laps in a frantic attempt to grab its tail. A wise hangover comes to the kitten and asks what he is doing. Kitten says, panting: "I heard that happiness is in your tail and now I want to grab it '' That's exactly right ',says the wise,old tomcat but I noticed that when I walk quietly through the happiness me naturally follows.

And so it is relaxed, relax, serene go through life and assume that you are lucky worthy solves many problems. To the desired bump off very desire and fear the dreaded calls on. Love drives out fear and want then you should give and share if you love your life. If you change a lovingly, compassionate man than the world changes around you. You meet all of a sudden the right people and punch the wrong people off. You meet the builders and repels the demolition and there will be more happiness in your life. Gratitude leads to happiness. Count your blessings and be thankful for what the other just likes. See special in ordinary and let you marvel at the miracle that you yourself. Scott Peck zei: "People who do not believe in miracles is itself a miracle '

Once there was a king who wanted to meet God. He put an ad in the newspaper but got no reaction because who adheres there now doing. He decided to go to an Indian sage who could really help him. The sage said:“I must know who you are before you can meet God.” “I am the king”,said the king. "Yes, that's your role in society but who are you?’ ,spoke the way. "I am the father of two children and married ', said the king. "That's your social role but who are you really",spoke the way. "I do not know," said the king, the manner in which said:"Know first who you are and you will meet God '. Know that you are a child of God and that you just 5 until 10% use of your potential, and you have many options and be open to the unknown.

Many people cling to the familiar which afflicts them for fear of the unknown. You have every reason to be afraid of the known and the unknown to look forward with confidence towards happiness that is your inheritance and what you are entitled to. said my friend Leon:"Henny is the way inside" and that comment I had enough and took my heart. I went, as my friend Elly said of hard to heart…

This article has been published in the magazine Spiegelbeeld and will appear in my book 'Levenskunst & geluk’ dat in 2013 will appear

 

Nothing human is strange you

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If you accept yourself completely, with all your shadow sides, your negative aspects, are you whole and complete and are you everything and are you an artist of life. Knowing that nothing human is alien to you is liberating. You won't be offended so easily, because you know that everything can suit you.

We often tend to project onto others the aspects that we do not recognize and do not accept for ourselves. In fact, when we are codependent, we attract a partner who is unable or unwilling to give love and attention and in doing so, such a person mirrors the lovelessness we have towards ourselves and we don't want to see that so we give the partner's fault.

Also, certain comments will be a trigger to old, unprocessed pain, which has yet to be healed and transformed. It is very good to ask yourself what is the most terrible thing that people can say about you, you can bet that's a repressed shadow side of you that you don't want to acknowledge and accept….

The true wise and artist of life knows that he can also be foolish. Truth is usually paradoxical. Nietzsche said that very nicely when he said: “The wise are not expected to commit follies.”, which is a violation of human rights!’. I find that very beautiful and recognizable.

You have a devil in you, an enemy, which you are often not aware of and then he exercises power over you, you may take that enemy in and make it work for you instead of against you. Rumi zei: "He who recognizes no flaws in himself is his own enemy". Mary J. Blige zone: ‘The enemy is me!’.

Robert Burney writes about the whole person. He is writing: “This work is about becoming an integrated, heel, mature person in action in the sense of learning from life and responding(i.t.t. react) on living conditions and other people. The only way we can become whole is to take possession of all parts of ourselves, by acknowledging all our parts we can choose how we respond to life. By denial, hide, repressing parts of ourselves we are doomed to live a life in response'.

Many react to circumstances and others and thus allow themselves to be determined by them and are then a willful victim of it instead of responding from the core of your being which is love.

When we react it is often based on old experiences or expectations about the future and then we are not in the NOW, the only moment that really exists and so we don't live to the fullest, are we not an artist of life.

Giving a response is being in the Now, Osho was also very right to point this out and Eckhart Tolle too.

As long as parts of us, bossing our subpersonalities and ego we are not whole and not an artist of life, are we not congruent, hasn't the boss come home yet?….

Bron: Book 'Art of Living & geluk’ Henny Bos, the end 2012 begin 2013 opens

get out of your comfort

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The greatest enemy of your human potential is your comfort zone…

You can only achieve the art of living and happiness if you are willing to step out of your comfort zone, what you're attached to because it's so familiar, you often hold on to it even though it's not that great. you think: "I know what I have now and not what I'm getting.". So you are afraid of the unknown, where only the known could scare you. Fear is also a bad counselor.

I have published a brochure called: ‘Hoe gaat het?’, with a qualitative research into what people answer when asked how they are doing. At first most people say 'good', if you keep asking, answers like: 'I can not complain'(no party so), "It's okay"(not very great either) and 'Nothing special'(if life is not particularly!). They are in the comfort zone of not very good and not very bad.

Often things first have to go very badly in the form of an illness or crisis in order for people to repent, as happened to me..

There is a story of a woman, with which things did not go well she went for advice to a sage and he said to her:“Let go of the bad in you and replace it with the good”. The woman did and after a while came back to the sage to thank him, to her surprise the sage then said: Now let go of the good and replace it with the great. She did that too and after a while she was fine and she went back to the sage to thank him. To her astonishment the sage now said:"Let go of the great too and replace it with the magisterial", divine'. There is a reason in the Bible: "Know ye not that ye are gods"?’, so no, otherwise we would all be artists of life and happy.

We often stick to fair to good. In a course I attended, participants were asked to rate their quality of life in school, most of them only got a six, a few came with a 7 and they thought there was no more. We only use 5% van ons potentieel, so there's a lot more in it. Wayne Dyer said very nicely: 'Don't die with your music still in you….’.

 

Bron: Book 'Art of Living & geluk’ – Henny Bos (will end 2012)

Wetten van levenskunst

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Taking knowledge of the laws of life and cosmic laws and living afterwards and cooperating with grace leads to the art of living and happiness, I have discovered the following laws for art of living in my life

-1-First of all, it is a law that you must be awake or are awakening, that you are aware, that you realize you've been sleeping all this time wasn't there. Vernon Howard zei: “Despite the fact that it seems noble, any action taken by an unawakened human disease and sorrow, from smart, deepening' The biggest obstacle, the biggest hindrance to true awakening lies in the fact that people think they are already awake(!). It is an illusion they live in that they mistake for reality. Shakespeare gods:“Readiness Is Everything”, you have to be willing to go through hell to get to heaven. From these first laws all others flow

-2- Let go and forgive. Not attaching to and not identifying with the false image you have of yourself, others and the world.

-3- Feeling connected to the Universal Intelligence and to everything

-4- can enjoy, even and just the smallest things. Those who can't enjoy quickly become unenjoyable

-5- Have humor and the ability to put things into perspective and see through the game that life is often

-6- Be the boss of your thinking and feeling instead of. that your thoughts and feelings are overpowering and bombarding you with their impressions.

-7- The special, seeing divine in the ordinary, see anyway instead of just looking without really seeing.

-8- Have a happy and grateful attitude and therefore attract even more happiness.

-9- Never reject what you have to accept and don't accept what you have to reject.

-10- Dare to be excited, it comes from 'en theos' and that means God in you. Then you are one.

-11- being serene, don't let your self-esteem be determined by the praise or blame you get from others, that is en. other value and no self-worth

-12- Respect for yourself and your fellow man

-13- Love and compassion for yourself and the other

-14- Have the capacity to learn and enjoy learning new things that lead to change and welcome those changes, every improvement is a change

-15- Grow and develop, that goes on to infinity and enjoy your way. The bigger the island of knowledge the longer the coastline of wonder. The more you know, the more you discover that there is much more to know and explore.

-16- Don't be a perfectionist and don't set the bar too high. If you set the bar too high you can go under

-17- Feel that you are unique and authentic and incomparable and so don't compare yourself with others, stand in your own power.

-18- If you are observant of your own inattention, you are observant and that is the beginning of awareness

-19- Have peace in your heart and share and give. Thich Nhat Hanh rightly advocates this with his mindfulness

-20- You have the duality of negative thinking on the one hand and positive thinking on the other, the synthesis, the non-duality is in right thinking, nl. that you are not a human being with a spiritual experience but a spiritual being with a human experience

-21- Never change to please someone else, then it is a defense of old pain called False hope, that says:’If I change, the other will love and like me’ It doesn’t work like that, it is calculated behavior that is seen through and you achieve the opposite.

-22- love your enemies, they point out your weaknesses, attack you so that you can become aware of them and amplify them, only through awareness can you do something about it, otherwise it will continue to rot and cause misery

-23- Have patience, trust and perseverance then everything will turn for the better. Your circumstances do not determine the consequences, but your reaction to those circumstances

-24- to take care of something or someone, without it being at the expense of yourself is also very good for your happiness in life. Volunteers are known to feel better. Cultivate altruism as the Dalai Lama rightly points out.

-25- Don't be against anything, be for something. What you resist only amplifies and therefore has the opposite effect

-26- Don't annoy and don't annoy but wonder. Everything that irritates you in the other is aspects of yourself that you don't want to see yet. Do The Work by Byron Katie and you'll find out. Nothing human is strange to you!

-27- Be playful,lively, live free like the kids but don't be childish. The Bible says that you must become like children to enter the Kingdom of God

-28- don't be too serious. Voltaire zei:’I consider seriousness a disease’ Van de 30 psychiatrists who were asked to tell something funny about their lives, only two succeeded, who is seriously ill here

-29- Look at things from more angles, from a different point of view, such as a.o. Goethe steeds deed. Think of more than one solution to a problem, then you can choose the best one

-30- Laugh often and sincerely, laughing releases endorphins and that increases your resistance and your feeling of happiness and it is contagious

-31- Practice a lot in what you want to learn and what you want to achieve mastery in. Like the golfer who became world champion again and was interrogated by a smart sports journalist, who said:'There is also a lot of luck involved' 'Yes' said the golfer, "But the more I practice the luckier I am"!’

-32- Transform your fears into love. Where there is love there can be no fear and where there is fear there can be no love or only a languishing existence.

-33- Search and find your mission, your vocation and your work become pure joy and contribute to your development and to that of others. The Buddha said,:“Happiness comes when your work and words benefit yourself and others”

-34- Knowing that you know nothing is the prelude to true knowing. Socrates zei:"Now I know I don't know anything". We often think we already know and that is an illusion, the pitfall and the prison

-35-Choose freedom by taking responsibility for your life and having an internal locus of control.

-36- We often consist of different sub-personalities who all go their own way just like orchestra members who each play their own song. The conductor must then come and indicate which song is now being played and that it happens in harmony as a unit. The conductor is the Self.

-37-According to Ken Wilber, consciousness develops like child's play with the cubes that fit over each other. We all start with the smallest cube and can, by being open to putting a bigger cube over it and thus becoming more aware. The little cube knows only its own bounded space like the pool frog that does not know the greatness of the ocean. The bigger cube knows about the small one because it has been. If you continue to grow like this you will come to the art of living and awakening. You were the biggest problem you ever had. Goethe gods:'Dying and becoming'