Gratis brochure

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The codependency network now has 79 membership, The 80th member, I will send you a free brochure, namely the brochure: Een introductie in codependentie

You can find the link to the codependency network right here

Niveaus van heling

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Om uit je slachtofferschap te komen zijn er niveaus van heling die Lori Rekowski beschrijft in haar boek: ‘A victim no more – how to stop being taken advantage of’. We mogen bedenken dat de aanklager en redder in feite ook slachtoffers zijn, mensen die zich door angst laten leiden(lijden).

says Lori:

ideas + Emotions = bad decision

ideas + Emotions + logic = healthy decision

 

Here's her schedule that I translated:

-1- awareness, You identify with the victim's behavior

 

-2- Principals to change old patterns and begin putting into practice of healing methods

 

-3- step by step begin to see the benefits of using the methods.

 

-4- you're on the 'processes' and integrate new insights and let go of old patterns

 

-5- The will is stronger to create more balance in your life

 

-6- increased awareness of your ability to live the life you want to manifest.

 

-7- your self-esteem grows significantly

 

-8- you stop creating drama and pulls mentors in your life.

 

-9- confidence to 'act' life and to be able to

 

-10- experiences more fun, geluk, clarity and peace in your daily life.

 

In the final stage, there is a transition. As a victim you know very little and think it know to have and at the final stage you know you do not know and therefore can investigate. Socrates said that: "Now I know that I know nothing 'and Einstein said: "The more I know the more I discover that I do not know '. You work than grace, and see everything as a loving gift or something to learn, nothing is without value and meaning for you.

On my toilet hanging my judgment: "The less people know, The more they think they know 'and that's the trap and step up to mischief in the drama triangle, which we are not aware of

So it is to unlearn all the negative and destructive patterns. Inayat Khan, the great Sufi master had also talked about unlearning and that is more difficult than learning. It is difficult to disidentify us of our old behaviors because we are so accustomed to the familiar. It is a question of fear motivation to go for love motivation.

Schema in de slachtofferrol versus in je persoonlijke kracht

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Hierbij een pdf van een schema over slachtofferrol versus persoonlijke kracht

Bron: Boek: ‘De Dramadriehoek’ – Henny Bos , verschijnt medio 2013)

pdf.Schema in de slachtoffervalkuil of in je persoonlijke kracht

Regrediëren

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Regress means that we return to an earlier developmental stage of our lives and so do the players in the drama triangle constantly.

They are again demanding child(aanklager) or internalized rightly pointing older(aanklager) or internalized caring parent(redder/helper) or the abused child or verontachtzame(slachtoffer).

Jeru Kaball wrote in his Clarity Process all about the fact that we are all still in essence as the 5 year-old child and that our essence has not developed further and is much in it. We often develop just spend our personality without much attention to our essence. Gurdjieff also pointed out already that we work too little to our essence and in many ways with him

We do not listen to the wise and think they know it better. Bruno Groening said: "He who strikes the board pointing in the wind is beyond help '. Such a person hangs or shoots back in earlier stages of development and thus regresses.

When we are offended or unfairly treated triggers often our ancient past hurts and we react based on that old pain rather than to give a response from our adult self.

In the reaction, on the other, there is often question of transfer and displacement. We treat the other innocent as if he is having done to us what, while in just past by another that happened again regress. It is quite common and most of us do not even know the word does not even to my thick Dale!.

We must nurture our inner child, but need not be childish and as a child to react now we are mature. If we respond mature we get this automatically from the drama triangle, because that the adult does not participate.

Americans are either over reenactment again knocking out old unresolved childhood traumas we suppressed. This is done repeatedly until we understand what's going on. Freud had to say about the repetition compulsion and the French: 'The story repeats itself'.

During regression therapy we go back to our youth aware you still be aware of your childhood traumas and process them now and transform.

If we do nothing, we walk away from the old pain of our youth and we displace it to the subconscious which is stronger than the 9x conscious and therefore often determines our behavior with all the unpleasant consequences.

Process and then transforms to play your childhood traumas rather than running them in the drama triangle, switching possibly a counselor, coach or therapist, but do what I can recommend.

Bron: Book The Drama Triangle’ – Henny Bos (verschijnt medio 2013)