Ken je ook mensen die overdreven aardig zijn, echt opvallend. Dat noemen psychologen reactieformatie ofwel in overdreven vorm het tegendeel laten zien van wat er is. Bij overdreven vriendelijkheid is er sprake van verdrongen woede……
I spoke to a woman recently,,nl,who told me that she was so lonely,,nl,I suggested to her to visit a lecture,,nl,to meet people,,nl,that is so expensive ',,nl,I told her that there are also free lectures and events,,nl,how do I get there? ',,nl,I said I wanted to take her with my car,,nl,I do not want to chase you on costs,,nl,Then I had enough and said,,nl,"I think you have the yes-but disease,,nl,I tried to help someone,,nl, die me vertelde dat ze zo eenzaam was. Ik stelde haar voor om een lezing te bezoeken, om zo mensen te ontmoeten. She said: ‘Ja maar, dat is zo duur’. Waarop ik haar vertelde dat er ook gratis lezingen en evenementen zijn. She said: ‘Ja maar, hoe kom ik daar dan’. Ik zei dat ik haar wel met mijn auto wilde brengen. She said: ‘Ja maar, ik wil je niet op kosten jagen!’. Toen had ik er genoeg van en zei: ‘Volgens mij heb je de ja-maar ziekte!
When do we stop distributing labels to people?,,nl,which we therefore put in a box,,nl,I judge us,,af,Nobody is completely bad and nobody is completely right,,nl,we are primarily human,,nl,I also try to judge less and to observe and observe more and more,,nl,Labels,,en, die we daardoor in een hokje stoppen, me ons oordeel. Niemand is helemaal slecht en niemand is helemaal goed, we zijn in de eerste plaats mens. Ik probeer ook steeds minder te oordelen en meer te observeren en te waarnemen….
Wat is tantrisch denken? Tantric thinking is a way of thinking that accepts everything and approves as it is experienced now, just as it is, without judgment or opinion. Tantric thinking is beyond 'good’ or 'poor', 'And Don'ts', "Positively’ or 'negative'. It sees and recognizes the usefulness and accuracy of all can benefit and learn from everything. It sees everything as it is, judgmentally.
If I feel sad I accept the message: "It's okay to feel sad ', I approve: And if my grief is accepted by my way of thinking, I am happy. My sadness may be there! Finally have my thoughts about my grief to feel guilty for what they are.
This is a great Tantric secret. Anything that may be, and thus is fully accepted, experienced almost automatically as happy. When I feel I let myself feel this completely sad. By fully able to experience my sadness makes me happy. I do not force me not to feel happy. I give myself permission to feel too unhappy. Both accept me as just: happy or not happy.
Approve means your ego finds himself in someone or something outside of yourself. a thought, a feeling, deed or word: your ego identifies itself with this. They are accepted by our ego. They are one of our ego.
When we our thoughts, Emotions; Accept feelings and actions, we live in unity with ourselves and we show no resistance to what we are. We stop being aggressive against ourselves, we stop fighting against ourselves.
The principles of the tantric way of thinking:
Já say to all life events and all appearances of life.
Thoughts, Emotions, words and deeds are neutral. We judge them to 'good', 'Bad', 'Pleasant’ of’ 'Annoying'.
Everything and everyone in our lives is meant to learn and develop. Therefore, everything and everyone is welcome in our lives.
It does not matter what we think or feel. Anyways we are right.
I have used this way of thinking without knowing that it was thinking Tantric. I had thought the aphorism: "The acceptance is the key to transformation" and resisted me when no longer against my depression but accepted it as a message from my higher self, I told myself: "I have a depression now, accepted that and still love me, everything is good, it is to love, and if that fails to learn from and I did and I still do.
With respect to a starting point 4 the tantric thinking I object because we can be wrong and incorrect, impure thinking and we must have the courage to correct ourselves. I have to think of a statement of Nietzsche who said: "The point is expected that they do not commit follies, which is a violation of human rights!’
Rumi zei: "He who weaknesses, limitations and shortcomings do not recognize is his own enemy '
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