Acting nice as an alternative to being honest

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My experience is that most people do like to want to be liked, you could call a codependent draw. They are nice instead of honest. Friendship

I read the good book "Caring enough to confront". we give enough to the other to confront him with his destructive behavior with the risk of conflict?. we have to make over?. We have so much love that we want to protect that person for his own enmity?. Most do not. Friendship

I was talking with a neighbor Piet hated neighbor Jenny, who walked through the streets a few dozen meters from him, He smiled kindly at her and waved to her and between his lips, inaudible to her, He said, 'Hello cunt-wijf'.Dat is doing nice alternative to face it in a nutshell, and it is more common than you might think.

How dare we be honest?. I know people who told me that I have a very high awareness and am gifted and wise, it was flattery, because she claimed no interest in my "wisdom", asked me a single question, , demonstrating did not mean what they said. That's you kidding codependent what you say and do not say what you mean.
Many people who ask you the automatic pilot how you're doing, interests which do not fuck, they are too busy with themselves.

Often we do our best to make a good impression on others even if we have to be dishonest purpose. go of impression management to express management(zie m’n artikel daarover).
The codependent plays the mister nice guy, but he's not so nice, He tells himself that he was lucky to escape his unhappy and so lie itself and the other for with his nice behavior calculative. He is doing well but it is not. Do you just being nice or are you also that's the question.

M’n zus zei: "I love you" with an intonation that sounded rather ominous. Friendship, Friendship. A friend said to me '' Your sister is just pain, you're a masochist if you do it by going to call her sometimes not then you will see that they never call you more 'I regularly sat down with the phone in my hands but did not call, I waited, I wait all over now 10 year they never took the trouble to call me, no interest, I love you, she said, a strange kind of love that. Lao Tse said that fine words are often not true.

Bron: Friendship (Friendship)

scared or depressed

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scared or depressed

The inner child can be scared or depressed, then the following could be going on:

When I am anxious it is because I am living in the future. When I am depressed it is because I am living in the past.

That's right. When you live in the here and now you feel happy and happy and everything is peaceful, harmonious and safe. So practice mindfulness

The future is a mystery, the past is history, this moment is a gift, that’s why we call it present!

bron: my book Discover and embrace your inner child see webshop

Being alone

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-1282- The ability to be alone is also the ability to truly love:
It may seem paradoxical to you, But that is not it. It's an essential truth.
Only the people who are able to be alone, are able to really love, to share and to penetrate to the deepest core of the other.
Without owning the other
Without becoming dependent on the other
Without reducing the other to a thing
Without getting addicted to the other
They allow the other complete freedom, because they know that when the other leaves they will be just as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken away by another, because it couldn't be given by anyone else. Osho (translated by me from English with additions by me)
Source my book: The true master is the master student subtitled: learn from these to-the-point life wisdoms that matter

What have I learned in 2021?

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What have I learned in 2021 : Patience

be more modest
Less judging, observe and see more
Doing will of God is love, understanding, compassion and wisdom!
Keep coaching and calling, writing and publishing is service.
be long-suffering: is merciful, tolerant, patiently, generous and kindness is charity, compassion and kindness, compassion, goodness, to be patient is to suffer without murmuring….

With Lao tse I say: "Maybe I'm the only confused head", because everyone is always so sure of themselves!’

-Facing anger with love and also with understanding and empathy
-Kaizen small steps forward
-True friendship is the real wealth
-the evil one, stiff, rational person needs love most…
-The way you see people, is the way you treat them – Zig zigglar
-You treat others the way you treat yourself
-If they don’t show it they don’t know it

Less likely to criticize and reinforce the good

Discover and embrace your inner child

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Preface:
Listening to your inner child
Our thinking often causes us to erase the words of, among other things, our inner child with that thinking like an inner whiteboard eraser and then we say that it means nothing.
It's the same idea as when you turn off your radio and say there are no broadcasts. We not only have to turn on the radio and be on receiving but also tune in to the right station. That takes practice. A training inner child can help and also the contents of this book, explaining how to connect with your inner child.
Pallas Hendriks
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