Who controls the bus?

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John Powell wrote about this topic. He told the story of a boy who was belittled and insulted by his father. Therefore, the boy decided to 5 age that he is no longer the law would let prescribe another and would yield to none.

The boy was bus driver. When he 45 year, he drove his bus and saw an oncoming come across a narrow bridge. He would not surrender, would not admit that it would not go and diversion and had a head-on collision in which he was killed. John Powell raised the question: 'Who actually controlled by bus?’. It was not exactly the 45 year-old adult but still the 5 old who would not surrender.

For me it was the 15 year, which was the rebel and protest against everything and everywhere was, I was a member of the band 'Underground team' and we were against everything, the establishment was klootten. When I much later realized I whistled the 15 hairy back and let him control my life and no longer acidic and decided not to be against everything but for things and people.

If we are like the 5 year we are codependent and we want to love, erkenning, esteem and get respect from outside because we were not used to.

Een man zei: "I still like the 5 year only with the difference that I am now with a beer in my hand stand 'Jeru Kaball wrote in his "Clarity Process' even though a 4 old who leads us often and that we are needy and want to catch and take and receive rather than to distribute wealth and give. We must cherish the child in ourselves and love but we must not let the boss to play and not let our bus driving that it can not.

Americans have about the reenactment we now repeat again the childhood trauma in adulthood and play and there's a lot in, if we repeat our life lessons they will not teach in intensified form until we recognize and woprden aware of the fact that we were not aware and observant.

Ego vs. Self

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The definition of Charles Whitfield of codependency describes that we are making our lives dependent on our ego and others. I was also a male ego and know it so well, gradually I've developed for my true Self and know that nothing human is alien to me and flexible switching of codependency to independe nce to Intradiscal overlapping variance to counterdependentie and interdependence, which includes all the ego now service instead of ruling is. I'm not stuck in one box but am still flexible and dynamic and develop myself in the knowledge that it is infinitely conscious and his life's work is where I enjoy a lot of.

Nietzsche said very nice: "Everywhere I go I am followed by a dog called Ego," and so it is. You're doing the ego at the front door and the back door he comes back. You're not starting and you do not. You should just make sure that your ego does not play the boss of you, but a willing servant is

The ego knows only aspects of the ego. So self aspects of the Self also knows that of the ego and knows how not to.

If you want to know where you are you can identify the following aspects of the ego and the Self's go over and see how many you score on both.

 

ego Self

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neurosis sane

competition cooperation

separate attached

brag humility

feel superior spiritual value

arrogance spiritual self

hurt help

demolish building

does not know himself self-knowledge and insight

arises is good for themselves

idealized self-image realistic self-image

Ideally I real I

negative positive

think badly of people feel good about people

mistrust trust

subconsciously aware

do not know that he is ignorant knows this well

rigid flexible

examines not investigate

does not grow on itself, develops itself

illusion reality

materialistic spiritual

does not live in the now, live in the NOW

Fear of exposure to be seen

silly point

hebzucht, taking Release, parts, give

non-love love

afgunst, jealousy compassion / dogen

agressie, violence peaceable

fear love

dominant amiable

makes over other makes over zichzelf

much talk can also be silent

noise silence

unbalance balance

see criticism as an attack critical free advice

quarrel sub-sub-harmony people person

temper serene

fighting surrender

others read the lesson accept others

selfishness altruism

chooses his right chooses his happiness

anger compassion

narcissism spiritual self

pressure relaxed

quantity quality

tamas,rajas* sattva*

bound connected

own will by driving Thy will be done

bad good

pedantic learning sample

presumptuous real

authoritarian humanistic

do

left brain both hemispheres

impure pure

dualitei unit, synthesis

give take

demands attention give attention

easily offended learns from insult

conflict peace, harmonie

impatience patience

effort relaxation

lie truth

impure pure

emotions feelings

condemn forgive

entropie syntropie

do do by not doing

would be better than the other corrects himself

Status esteem intrinsically

demonically divine

complexity simplicity

closed open

think you, awareness

sly smart

critical acceptance

think is the boss thinking is servant

unfreedom freedom

identification disidentification

extremely moderate

participate fully

against for

or / and or / and

verleden, future date, now

what is in it for me? what is in it for us?

I we

scarcity abundance

eros agape

knowledge, intellect, wisdom

criminal rehabilitation

profit,loss win-win

revenge make it right

rancor forgiveness

governing freedom

others use respect for others

dissatisfied satisfied

black / white full color

projecting pure perception

transformed conditioned

 

*sattva: security,Brightness,hartmonie

*founded: passion, energie, activity

*tamas: passivitieti,resistance,darkness

As long as you have a lot of ego to score you have a problem and that has to do with letting go, the disindentificer, emptier be. You have thoughts but are not your thoughts, You have a body, but are not your body, you have feelings but are not your feelings. If you think and feel through your ego and beyond you will discover that the false, unreal

There was once a monk who sat on the throne and the courtiers asked him: "Are you the minister ', ‘Nee, I'm more than that 'replied the monk. Ben I first dan?"She asked. The monk replied again that he was more than that. "" Are you the king?"Again the monk said that he was more. "Are you sometimes God?!'Said the courtiers. ‘Nee, I'm more than that, "said the monk, which the officers said: "Nothing is greater than God" and the monk replied,: "I am nothing"

Here are some quotes about ego versus self:

Osho: "It's your projection because your ego can not see a non-ego. Only things that are alike can recognize each other '

Debbie Ford: "We are alone but afraid of feedback when we know we lie to ourselves at some point ' (and so does the ego continuously).

Jampolskis: "The mind that is very, full of love and leaves no room for ego '

Jampolskis: "They are attracted by our ego to blame ensures that we are afraid of love '

Jampolskis: "Too much talk, not listen and constantly attack others in the speeches are a few of the more common traits of listening to the ego '.

Wayne Dyer: "The ego is in charge of much conflict and controversy because to show your prompting heads of the other '

Wayne Dyer: "The disorder, disharmony and diseases of the world these are created by the ego consciousness

Hoe groter het ego, the smaller the world.

 

 

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In the journal "From heart to heart in August 2012 is the article "Be happy!’ van Ton Peters. He says: 'Ask of yourself to be happy'. Again a positivo coach who wants the light only and choose the day and rejects the dark of night. He prefers to be happy above really are your peaks and valleys that are normally.

He talks about the inner self with a capital which of course is superior to the self with a small letter which again is so afkeurd. Ton calls to repeat the mantra "be happy" and gives some other tips to help you quickly realize your luck(-). He says it gekunseld and unreal can happen, but only in the beginning. Ton represents the very simple, so simple that you may wonder why everyone is not all happy.

I know a man who also bandied says he is so happy, I've already told him why he did not tell that to his face. I suspect him of reaction-formation or in exaggerated form to show the opposite of what has…

I think the value ton of unhappy feelings like anger, grief, depressie, angst, etc. not want to see, thus throwing the baby out with the bathwater. If you are depressed and you follow Ton's advice and do you say to yourself "Be happy," then you get no value out of your depression you with your Higher Self can bring, then you deny that there NOW and do you want something else..

Moreover Ton talks about requirements, I believe that the Higher Self does not demand but accept what is there and the biggest transformations arise. You can say: 'I am depressed, but despite that I love myself "and" My depression can further help me on my path to self-knowledge, self-understanding and self-consciousness' I say that because I have known a severe depression and am thankful that I did not pushed by gay or do happy doing or distractions, but I entered and did much.

Ton is a bit like the two men who called themselves 'No shade', they had no shade and saw nothing but positive so they said, they performed for a talent show and the criticism of the jury was not good, their "happiness and positivity was instantly she disappeared reacted negatively and frustrated and angry, a reporter asked yet where their positivity was now, that reporter was angry at the side printed with "No shade '. They took their loss Heef unsporting and saw it as a learning opportunity. I do not believe in people like Ton Peters who always want to be happy, and even demand. Jung gods of: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light figures but we are aware of our dark side '.

Ton wants to be happy now, and demands that, provide a tyrant giving advice rather than information. The Buddha said,: "Happiness comes when your work and words of benefit to yourself and to others'. The Ton words do not come very beneficial to himself as demanding and I do not do to others. Lao tse zei: "Beautiful words are often not true and true words are often not pretty '.

Happiness is in my opinion not directly accessible but a byproduct of consciousness and self-knowledge and that range often through many difficulties and setbacks over, er is geen quick fix. Johannes Tauler zei: "The pains of the crisis are the contractions of God's birth in you" and as I have experienced it. ‘No pain, no gain’.

The most beautiful, most amiable people are not the ones who have always been happy, but those difficulties, setbacks and misfortune have known and those things empathy, gratitude and love learned. ‘Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls’ zei Edwin Chapin. The most successful and truly happy people are those who have overcome most of the setbacks and failures and still do.

During a lecture I held for the Theosophical Society, where about 30 people were present, there was 1 woman who was brought up happy, she said. When I broached the subject of anger, showed that precisely this woman held the rage(!). She had become very demanding because she had always been her and never had been a counter, she had not learned to deal with rejections and setbacks, she always wanted her to be driving by and that did not work and then they got angry(in order to manipulate).

We do not learn from our successes but our difficulties and mistakes and therefore we often evade and deny that we make mistakes.

Boek ‘Levensinspiraties’ is off

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Levensinspiraties / Henny Bos

Henny Bos was a manager at a publishing house and assistant professor in Utrecht and gave communication training at HBO level. He trained to become an author / coach for awareness and codependency, by following many courses and training and by self-study. He read and studied thousands of books an investment of 10.000- the euros in themselves, which he now makes available to you in the form of inspiring stories. Socrates zei al: "Improve yourself by reading the writings of others and you will easily see where that others should do much trouble '…

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