Nee leren zeggen
Of codependents are known to have difficulty saying no. they feel guilty and inadequate and selfish and that does not feel good for them.
I invited a woman, which attract many codependent, for a talk about codependency, I'll call her Carla. Carla was enthusiastic and wanted to get desperate. she calls a night for the meeting really wonder because her son asked her to pass grandchildren and she dared to say no, she denied herself as an opportunity for a step toward healing 'r codependency, she found the needs of her son more important than her own need, Also typical for codependents.
I say sometimes yes when I mean no and have afterwards regretted. No can say means that you understand that a question not a question but a requirement if you can not say no.
Krishnamurti said lighting means you no to everywhere says. That is going too far a yes to things and people you help appears in your personal growth and development to me in place. In India kennen ze neti neti, this not, not that. Is a joke:"What do they call a codependent who can say no without feeling guilty?’ . Antwoord: 'Healthy?!"Deny yourself not say yes because you're afraid that people will be mad at you or will reject you if you say no. People who can not accept his no attention not worthy.
Just look at how far you no and yes you have had in your life.
I said 14 age no to the Reformed Church, because I found a deformed church with people who think they have the only true faith and only get to heaven, not my church so. It took me a long time to free myself from the Reformed ideas.
After my crisis, I said no to my wife and wanted a divorce, one of the best decisions of my life, a liberation was.
I said yes to the broker when I saw the house where I live now. I told the broker:"Now I'm going to say something stupid in your eyes and that is that I would have it for the asking price and no small risk that it breaks off and ignores my nose '. The energy in my house is very harmonious, peaceful and loving, each house has its energy if you are willing to feel that.
Bring your no's and yes's a look at a map and see if you would like to do it again, an interesting exercise.
